Saving My Marriage
There are tough times in any marriage and you wonder “what am I going to about saving my marriage”,well you will be glad to know that you are not the only one who has asked this question of themselves.There are literally thousands of couples who are going through the turmoil of marriage difficulty right now.There are many who are in a worse situation that yours and are on the brink of giving up, throwing in the towel, who cannot face their spouse anymore, but wait there is hope , things can be turned around and made better, tens of thousands have done it, you can do it too, if you want to.
The Expectations Factor
Look at your expectations of your spouse, are you serious about wanting to know the answers to “saving my marriage”.There might be the chance that there are unrealistic expectations of each other, or that the marriage has gone amiss due to miscommunication, something was said or done and now the marriage is in turmoil.
“Many say that a good marriage should never be in conflict”, whoever said that must have never had a disagreement with their spouse ever.
“My spouse knows me inside out, they can read my mind and know exactly what i want and when”, this statement will lead to all sorts of commication issues and disappointment, so if you are repeating this, the stop and change it.
“I thought that there should be lots of exciting things happening on a daily basis when you get married”, well again this statement will lead to frustration, arguments and eventually into the divorce court of life, marriage like anything else in life requires both of you to work at it.
Try to Give More
It’s great to be a reciever but sometimes, often than not it’s even better to be a giver, the other person will get tired of always giving and getting nothing in return, change and switch things up a bit, be a giver and the person who is always or seems to be always giving will be struck with awe at the change.Some relationships have turned around quickly just be the reciever becoming the giver and the giver becoming the reciever,who wants to give , give , give … chances are that this is going to be a energy draining process, so don’t take things for granted especially your spouse who is giving , giving , giving all the time, change the role and you become the giver.
Build up Self Esteem
There are times when you think that your spouse is doing ok by themselves, this again is a mistake.You should not assume anything, both parties need to feel love and warmth of affection.When you become serious about asking yourself what is the best things to do when saving my marriage ,this answers will become clear by going through the action above and below.
Like a rock be supportive
When it comes to focus, I really wanted to know the best things to do when it came to saving my marriage, one of the main things that i found lacking was being supportive of my spouse, not only listening to what they had to say daily, but providing my input in terms of advice the the differant scenarios they faced, whether it be personal or professional.There other change that I made was to be more comforting and reassuring and making sure that my spouse felt that I was always there for them, no matter what.
My list of priorities changed and saving my marriage became my number one objective, the big salary at the expense of my marriage was not longer the driving force, I knew something had to change and working long hours to justify my time and neglecting my spouse was not the right thing to do.I hope that you get a lot from this article and you take the actions to save your marriage,the last thing I wanted was to become yet another statisical marriage failure.I really hope that you get your marriage back on Track, I know you Can.